Most of the church teachings on marriage have been found to
be inadequate, non-Biblical, often male chauvinistic and demeaning to women.
I will not use the teaching l got from the church to define marriage or
analyze what a marriage should be.
As human and also subject to my own personal biases as well as conditions received from the churches, I will do my best to keep to the standard for a successful marriage as is revealed to me in the bible without being bias. Have you ever wondered, why, when a man/woman contemplating marriage are in a relationship they profess so much love and care for each other.
Then after tying the knot in a public act and united into one intimacy and commitment to each other, something goes wrong and the couple cannot stand each other any more. In most cases the result to infidelity, hatred, lying and cheating as an elevation of their own will over God’s divine will for them.
In reading this book, we will understand what went wrong and a solution to guard against its occurrence in marriages.
For a couple to have a satisfying and fulfilling marriage relationship, the man must understand the nature of a woman and what makes her unique. Also a woman must understand the nature of a man and what makes him tick. Once there is an understanding of this wonderful phenomenon, you are on a fruitful journey to a successful marriage.
The Bible said in Gen.2 vs 8 “Then the Lord God, planted a garden in Eden, in the east, and there He placed the man He had created” and in the same chapter verse 22 says “Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib and brought her to Adam”. (NLT)
From this passage, the first thing the man set his eyes after creation was a garden and he was instructed to tend and dress it which depict his assignment or vision. And too, the first thing the woman set her eyes on after creation was Adam which depicts relationship. With this we deduce that the man is work oriented while the woman is relationship oriented. Therefore, it is the responsibility of the man to discover his God-given purpose before venturing into marriage. Prov. 29vs18a says “Where there is no vision, the people perish”. Your fulfillment, satisfaction and peace of mind are all tied to your vision.
When a woman marries a man, it is her duty to identify with the vision of her spouse, stay close to him and give him all the moral support, care and assistant he needs to actualize his vision. For the single reason why you are married to him is to help him fulfill his God-given dream. Also, married men should understand that women love romance and therefore should learn to say love words to their wives. Once in a while take her out and spend quality time with her alone. It is actually the best time to bond together. It takes two to tangle. The price you pay for a thing determines the value you place on it.
A Christian marriage can be beautiful if we acquire the necessary information about it from the right source which is the Bible before we go into it. Husbands and wives are to emulate Christ and His church in how they treat each other. I pray that this book will bring an awakening to our married men/women to take their respective places in the home and build a prosperous, healthy and lasting marriage relationship.
And also our singles who are contemplating marriage should understand the foundation of godly marriage before making a choice of a life partner in other to have a healthy and blissful marriage. Love does not require that two people must look at each other but that they look together in the same direction.
Remember that man and woman needs Christ in order to appropriate what He wants them to do. One may ask: why must I need Christ to have a successful and long lasting marriage relationship? The Bible said in Psalm 51vs 5 that we were born sinners from the moment our mother conceived us, which means we have a sinful nature that will always make us do the wrong thing. In our flesh dwells no good thing, for when you want to do well you can't and when you try not to do wrong you find yourself doing it. It seems to be a fact of life that when you want to do what is right, you inevitably do what is wrong (Rom: 7vs15-25). Jesus Christ conquered sin once and for all and promises to fight by our side so that sin will lose its power in our lives (Col: 2 vs. 13-15). Without Christ's help, sin is stronger than we are and we are unable to defend ourselves against its attacks. God is a Spirit and marriage came from Him. Because marriage came from Him that makes it spiritual and not physical.
Therefore, any man/woman that is not born again and makes no effort to pursue a personal relationship with God, lack the capacity to function in marriage. Most times the reason for break-ups in marriage is as a result of misplaced priorities. When your personal desire surpasses God's desire for you, it means you are devoting more time pursuing something else other than God and what it takes to sustain your marriage. Some people's greatest desire in life is popularity, power and money and that becomes their idol and they end up building their lives around them. When you are married to this kind of a person be sure to have a miserable marriage relationship. When you put anything other than God at the center of your life, you will not reach your potential and become all that God wants you to be. How do I then put God first in my marriage?
As human and also subject to my own personal biases as well as conditions received from the churches, I will do my best to keep to the standard for a successful marriage as is revealed to me in the bible without being bias. Have you ever wondered, why, when a man/woman contemplating marriage are in a relationship they profess so much love and care for each other.
Then after tying the knot in a public act and united into one intimacy and commitment to each other, something goes wrong and the couple cannot stand each other any more. In most cases the result to infidelity, hatred, lying and cheating as an elevation of their own will over God’s divine will for them.
In reading this book, we will understand what went wrong and a solution to guard against its occurrence in marriages.
For a couple to have a satisfying and fulfilling marriage relationship, the man must understand the nature of a woman and what makes her unique. Also a woman must understand the nature of a man and what makes him tick. Once there is an understanding of this wonderful phenomenon, you are on a fruitful journey to a successful marriage.
The Bible said in Gen.2 vs 8 “Then the Lord God, planted a garden in Eden, in the east, and there He placed the man He had created” and in the same chapter verse 22 says “Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib and brought her to Adam”. (NLT)
From this passage, the first thing the man set his eyes after creation was a garden and he was instructed to tend and dress it which depict his assignment or vision. And too, the first thing the woman set her eyes on after creation was Adam which depicts relationship. With this we deduce that the man is work oriented while the woman is relationship oriented. Therefore, it is the responsibility of the man to discover his God-given purpose before venturing into marriage. Prov. 29vs18a says “Where there is no vision, the people perish”. Your fulfillment, satisfaction and peace of mind are all tied to your vision.
When a woman marries a man, it is her duty to identify with the vision of her spouse, stay close to him and give him all the moral support, care and assistant he needs to actualize his vision. For the single reason why you are married to him is to help him fulfill his God-given dream. Also, married men should understand that women love romance and therefore should learn to say love words to their wives. Once in a while take her out and spend quality time with her alone. It is actually the best time to bond together. It takes two to tangle. The price you pay for a thing determines the value you place on it.
A Christian marriage can be beautiful if we acquire the necessary information about it from the right source which is the Bible before we go into it. Husbands and wives are to emulate Christ and His church in how they treat each other. I pray that this book will bring an awakening to our married men/women to take their respective places in the home and build a prosperous, healthy and lasting marriage relationship.
And also our singles who are contemplating marriage should understand the foundation of godly marriage before making a choice of a life partner in other to have a healthy and blissful marriage. Love does not require that two people must look at each other but that they look together in the same direction.
Remember that man and woman needs Christ in order to appropriate what He wants them to do. One may ask: why must I need Christ to have a successful and long lasting marriage relationship? The Bible said in Psalm 51vs 5 that we were born sinners from the moment our mother conceived us, which means we have a sinful nature that will always make us do the wrong thing. In our flesh dwells no good thing, for when you want to do well you can't and when you try not to do wrong you find yourself doing it. It seems to be a fact of life that when you want to do what is right, you inevitably do what is wrong (Rom: 7vs15-25). Jesus Christ conquered sin once and for all and promises to fight by our side so that sin will lose its power in our lives (Col: 2 vs. 13-15). Without Christ's help, sin is stronger than we are and we are unable to defend ourselves against its attacks. God is a Spirit and marriage came from Him. Because marriage came from Him that makes it spiritual and not physical.
Therefore, any man/woman that is not born again and makes no effort to pursue a personal relationship with God, lack the capacity to function in marriage. Most times the reason for break-ups in marriage is as a result of misplaced priorities. When your personal desire surpasses God's desire for you, it means you are devoting more time pursuing something else other than God and what it takes to sustain your marriage. Some people's greatest desire in life is popularity, power and money and that becomes their idol and they end up building their lives around them. When you are married to this kind of a person be sure to have a miserable marriage relationship. When you put anything other than God at the center of your life, you will not reach your potential and become all that God wants you to be. How do I then put God first in my marriage?
(1). Recognize what is taking His place
in your life.
(2). Renounce this substitute god as unworthy of your
devotion.
(3). Ask God for forgiveness.
(4). Restructure your priorities so
that your love for God is the motive for everything you do.
(5). Examine
yourself daily to be sure you are giving God first place. We must break from
traditional stereotype way of marriage and hold on to the truth of God's
word. An opinion is something that you hold but a conviction is something
that holds you.
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