HUMAN LOVE!

There is what most of the world thinks of as love, which is human love.  This is not really love; rather in truth it is what we call: “I will love you if you love me back”

How many marriages have ended when one party or the other stopped getting what they wanted from the other person? Whether it was money, affection, attention, etc. the “love” they had for their mate was predicted upon by some kind of reciprocal return.

“Lust” is the training wheel of human love.  Human love is like the bicycle that allows you to move around in the neighborhood enough to learn there is something more than business deals, bargains and contracts.Human love is directed to the other person for his own sake.  It has little regard for truth. It desires the other person, his company, his answering love but it does not serve him.  Human love cannot love an enemy, that is, one who seriously and stubbornly resists it.

Human love makes itself an end in itself.  It creates of itself an idol which it worships, to which it must subject everything else it nurses and cultivates; it loves itself and nothing else in the world.   This type of love is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, and concern for something. You will also, argue that marriages based on human love always do not have happy endings.  Staying with a person under the same shelter requires a lot of adjustments, patience and understanding from both parties.  Even after you spend hours with each other, situation after marriage is totally different.  At the onset, when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other.  They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes.  It is after marriage that you get to know the person behind the mask.

Man’s emotions are not a reliable gauge upon which to establish a marriage relationship.  Hence, we must know in the spirit that it is God’s will.  It is much better to marry for character than for emotion. Emotions fluctuate, character doesn't. Emotions are in the soulish realm, and unless the carnal mind has been renewed (Born again and be filled with God’s Spirit), Satan can take away his emotion or feelings of love to someone else. If you are looking for someone to marry, you must seek those character and strength that will help you make wise decision and not just physical attraction that will make you feel good before the world.  Not everyone who looks good is pleasant to live with.  Physical attractiveness without discretion will do more harm than good.  Charm is deceptive and beauty is vain but the man and woman that fear the Lord shall be praised and is under the umbrella of God’s constant protection and provision.

The main reason why people make a wrong choice in marriage is the simple fact that when they fail in love initially, it creates emotion that empower “REASONING”.  Too often they hurry to develop an intimate relationship based on their strong feeling.   Feelings aren't enough to support a lasting relationship.  Do not force romance lest the feeling of love develop faster than the commitment to make love last thereby beclouding your sense of judgment and the ability to make a right choice. If you enter into marriage blinded by physical attraction, you will be rudely awaken not long after, when the full character of your spouse becomes evident. The romantic love which brings two people to the marriage alter is not that which successful marriages are built upon.  The kind of love that is truly romantic is that love which is developed during the course of a life together with someone whom you have worked hard with to claim that lasting love.

A marriage without Christ can never experience the spiritual bonding God brings to relationships.  It is good to be married. God created marriage for our enjoyment and He pronounced it good.  Until you are born again and made holy in your heart and conduct, you cannot please God or be a complete blessing to your partner.  You only live together as civil pagans.  Remember, God’s commands have the highest reason and obedience has the greatest sweetness.  Keep the Golden Rule in your marriage.  Righteousness abroad will not excuse wickedness at home.