1. SPIRITUAL NATURE AND CHARACTER!
The first gift for man or woman is not marriage or relationship. Yo need to know that you are created in God's image and likeness. The first thing to be concerned about as a single man or woman is your SPIRITUAL NATURE AND CHARACTER. What you need is to find YOURSELF, not a wife or seek for a relationship/ What most people know about themselves is their name they bear and where they hail from, you need to find yourself and be secured in the knowledge of who you are, have a healthy self-esteem and self'image. And the only way to go about it is to find it in God. You need to be confident in who God has made you. This confidence is only drawn from God. Never take your confidence in what you possess like money, car, social status or educational status/qualification. When you marry someone with self-esteem or self-worth that marriage will lose trust and faithfulness because you will always be defensive. Marriage is at its best when two God-like people get married.
2. LIKENESS!
In Genesis 1:26, God says "Let us make man in our image and in our likeness......." Likeness means to be like God. The purpose for which God made us in His LIKENESS is so that we can function like Him. Proverbs 25:28 says, "A person without self-control is like a city without fence" Anyone who does not know who he or she is becomes a fair game for someone else to mould into another image. Until you become whole you will always be dependent on other people for self-worth. Single state is the time to become like God so that the man or woman coming into your life for relationship will see unadulterated love in you. You also need to work on your appearance, your speech and general outlook. To have a very good, attractive and pleasant LIKENESS you have to work on your mouth. Learn to speak confidently for yourself so as not to depend on others for approvals.
3. GOD'S PRESENCE!
Before Adam needed the presence of another creation, he enjoyed the presence of the Creator. The first presence that you need in your life is not that of a boyfriend or girlfriend; but the presence of God. Imagine someone who just got saved and he is just getting to know God and within 3 months he wants to go into a relationship. Such a person will carry his or her old character into the relationship because he or she is yet to mature in the spirit and has not learned more about God's nature and His likeness has not fully formed in him or her. You need to use your single state to know more and more about God, your intending spouse should found you in God's presence. The glory of God's presence is a defense. His glory covers us and ensures we are not self-conscious and selfish. The glory of God should be your focal point not the flesh. Anyone who wants to marry you should meet you in God's presence and be able to see His glory in you.
4, WORK!
You need to be hardworking and diligent in what you do. You cannot afford to be lazy. You must have goals and dreams you are working towards. You must not be someone who lives without "no future ambition". You must be diligent at work and diligent in seeking God because at this stage of your life. you have a lot of time and you need to use it accountably. Even though you do not have work or gainfully employed you have gifts and talents, you need to creatively engaged.
5. CULTIVATION OF GARDEN!
To cultivate means "to bring out" or "to nurture". If you have not nurtured yourself, you cannot nurture somebody else. You need to first bring out the best in you so as to be able to bring out the best in somebody else. You need to cultivate yourself in order to cultivate someone else and make him or her better and nit bitter. Before starting a relationship you need to first of all consider this; are you a weed that will choke the relationship or a rich fertilizer that will help cultivate and nurture it. Fertilizers improve the quality of what you planted in it but weed stifles the quality.
6. PROTECTION!
You need to develop the capacity to defend and protect the interests and lives of those under your care. You need to be able to safeguard people's dignity, interest and confidence no matter what. You learned when you are already married but must develop this quality in your single state.You cannot be a talebearer.
7. THE WORD OF GOD!
It is only in the word of God that any relationship can maximize its full potentials. This is because marriage and relationships are two concepts of the heart of God. For you to get the best out of it, do not play with the word of God. That is where you get the image and the likeness that He wants you to get. That is where you get the real life and build strength of character which will sustain your relationship and marriage.
WHEN YOU DEVELOP THESE QUALITIES YOU ARE RIGHT FOR RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE!!!.
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