UNDERSTANDING MARITAL PROBLEMS!

The first step in solving your marital problems  is to recognize that the problem exists. Experiencing conflicts and solving them will make your relationship stronger. All marital problems could and should be solved by understanding. In order to solve the problem you need never look at them. What you need to do is to concentrate on the causes of the problems. Understanding the causes ensures that the problem is solved. The cause of the problem is often beneath not on the surface. Most attempts by couples to solve their marriage problems often dwell on the surface ignoring the root cause of the problem.

You need to uproot the cause to fell the tree of a problem. In our daily lives our problems cry to be understood and we need to pay attention, think positively, and sincerely look  for solutions. For instance you need to understand that nobody is equipped to maintain always that high level of romance or passion that you experienced when you newly wedded. So you must be prepared to handle the changes that will come as time goes by.  Problems don’t come because your partner is bad or you are not good enough. As long as you are in this flesh and blood problems and changes must come. There are no marriages on earth that doesn't have problems  at times. Even your parents had problems perhaps bigger ones and so if you succumb to problems it does not show strength of character but weakness.

Some of the problems you are experiencing is as a result of the distorted ideas you have about marriage. To get a good understanding of marriage issues or challenges always move away from the external or obvious  and examine the root causes. Understand them and the problem is half  solved. Yes you can solve that problem, so don’t quit.