THE SINGLE POLYGAMIST!

1. His emotions are shared with diverse people to who there is no binding commitment. He is not married but he is enjoying married privileges from several women.

2. He comes to your life with more care than commitment. On his lips is more romance than his actions can sustain.


3. He is damn fast, smart and can keep five of you in one city without letting your paths cross. He has a pattern for each of you: you may be for him in church, one at work, another e-love and so on. He is a perfect sharer.


4. He is not open and it is not a secret. He lets you share his life like you have it all but with apparent boundaries. You may never be able to touch his phone or know the pass code or you can never reach him at a certain time and so on.


5. Watch him carefully, his friends are play boys. They do what he does and paint him to you as the messiah among them. He is called the only 'good boy'. LIE! That's a dummy girl. His company tells you a lot about his reality.


6. He is always too busy for whatever binds him to you but he is never busy for what makes him have you.


7. He is smooth and he covers his lack of commitment with unimaginable care, love and romance. He wants you around but will do nothing to make you stay forever. He wants to make you discardable at all times.


8. His history is more hidden than a mystery. Everyone you find connected to his past is waved away with quick unclear stories. He is a master in covering up real gist with new gist. He would never let you finish a probing point, he'd rather it ends in a fight and settled later without further probe.


9. He studies you like he is studying for a higher degree. His understanding of you even scares you. He knows you so much he can keep you vulnerable and anticipate your moves. This way, he can maintain more of you without hassle.


10. He is smarter than apologetic. His apology is filled with excuses than sorry. He appeals to your niceness and has a way of sending you into emotional blackmail. He will help you find reasons why you are responsible for his weakness rather than take unalloyed responsibility.


11. He boxes your 'love' into a pattern you are not allowed to break because if it becomes unconventional, his plan is disrupted and everything gets exposed. He hates surprises and tries to convince you that that is natural for him.


12. He has a way of insisting that things be discrete even when there is nothing discrete about what he is doing with you. He wants privacy for everything and 'Nicodemusically' runs your 'relationship'.


13. His temperament worsens with time and adventure... the more he has you, the leaner his line of patience... You were never meant to stay long, but you have refused to get the message so he is looking for a 'natural' quarrel to take you off the next girl's space.


14. His happiest moment with you is when he is on top of you. No other time comes close to this.


15. He has worked on you. You actually adore him and cannot see a life outside him... He is a master at enslaving people because that is the only way they can cope with his baggage.


16. He is a Christian but accountable to no spiritual leader. He changes church at will like the Holy Spirit is still in heaven. He is stubborn and you know it. He is in charge and hardly defers to any voice.


17. He has no justification for being single. He has some, enough or more than enough money compared to too many people. He has a job or businesses. He has you, wants you and and can't help himself around you. All he really gets and gives is sex.


18. He treats you more like a target than a partner... Everything he does is to get you exactly where he wants. Remember, he has studied you and plays you like a keyboard.


19. When he claims 'busy', he doesn't want as much as a text, but when he wants you, you must leave your breath where you were and surrender to him.


20. He needs help! he doesn't need you. His life has been built on gaining pleasure from multiple relationships.

WHY CAN'T YOU MARRY A SINGLE MOTHER?

Some men say they can never marry a lady who has had a child outside wedlock. They call them "Ajeku" and "After One" yet they are the same men who run after innocent girls, defile them and deny responsibility for the pregnancy.
Some men have no shame!


If you don't want a single mother, stick to your decision but what makes a woman a great wife is not whether she has had a child or not. Countless ladies have had abortions yet no child before wedding. They look so clean yet rotten inside. Women who chose to have the babies should be respected and honored not for the mistakes they made but the courage they showed.

They feared God and valued another life than commit murder and save their faces from shame. They are God fearing and compassionate. Two major qualities needed in a wife. I pity men who allow senseless ego make them miss God's perfect will for their lives. God doesn't use someone's past to pick a spouse for them, he looks at your future and pick the person who is most suitable to help you fulfil your destiny! I have seen men who had nothing but moved into untold wealth after marrying their wives -a single mother who was used and abandoned in her past!

Single mothers make great wives as well as God fearing ladies. It is our character that determines how we enjoy our marriage not whether we make mistakes in the past or had no previous sexual experience.
The world has even gone upside down. Deception is the order of the day! Some ladies now use hymen kit/pills that make them look like virgins on the wedding night. You will see the blood. She acts the painful part yet she has had countless abortions before she met her husband.

Go for character brother! Go for God's will! Go for the woman who genuinely loves you and will always be there no matter what.

A honest single mother is far better than an untruthful and deceitful single lady. Think about it! God bless you

SEX IS SWEET BUT..............

Have you ever wondered why God carefully positioned a membrane of blood in a lady’s sexual opening?

It is a tiny membrane that partially or completely covers the opening of the vagina.

It is called the “HYMEN”. Why would God-Our Maker put a breakable tissue full of blood at the very door of the sexual opening of the female?

Why is it so carefully placed at that entrance, like a ribbon tied at the entrance of a new house about to be launched?

Why is it filled with blood that spills away when it is broken? Why?

Without doubt, the HYMEN IS A GATE! It was God (our creator) who set that blood-filled vessel there as a covenant blockage, a sign and a token of a covenant between the bearer and whoever plunges into her opening.

Before God, the disflowering of a lady is not a casual act of fun. It is a serious covenant struck and confirmed by the blood shed on that day.

This is God’s way of saying, “Whoever plunges into this woman shall only be able to do so by making a blood covenant to be joined to her for the rest of his life, from that point onward.

Little wonder why sexual intercourse was designed by God to take place only and only after the marriage contract is sealed. The one who made the body (the hormones, organs, nerves, tissues, e.t.c)
God said it in clear terms, the body is not for fornication”.

Anyone who chooses to use the body for fornication must know that he/she is working directly against God’s plan and there will definitely be a consequence either now or at old age!

There is a spiritual bonding, a supernatural process that takes place in a lady’s heart to the first guy that enters in to her especially at that particular time when the hymen breaks.

There is no covenant without blood: this is why the membrane contains enough of it. As a matter of fact, what happens the first time a lady has sex is not just sex but an immersion and a bathing of the man with her hymen blood to initiate a covenant that is highly recognized in the spirit realm of both light and darkness!

The first time this happens just marks her opening day covenant ceremony and each subsequent experience goes on to further refresh or strengthen that covenant or establish another version of it with another person.

Many have washed useless boys with that hymen-blood. Many have struck irreversible covenants with men that have nothing to do with their destiny. Many have shared that hymen blood in sexual activity with demon-possessed-men, while some others have struck such precious covenants with candle sticks and cucumbers, as they exercised sex with it.

If only they knew, many girls who carelessly allowed themselves to be disflowered in a bid to be among the so called “big girls” would never have done so.

Let me says it in clear terms: “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot (through sexual activity) is one with her ? 1 Corinthians 6:16 says, “And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”
This is why many girls are not yet married, yet their spiritual composition is already shattered and imbalanced, because they have mingled their souls with that of different men.

Dear Singles,
know today that there is a definite proportion of your virtue that leaves you each time a man enters into you and when that man leaves you, he leaves with it. Just imagine how much of yourself would be lost each time a man enters into you without any properly signed marriage bond or contract.

Sex is a spiritual affair. A giving of yourself to another. All of these things have strong and terrible spiritual implications. A broken hymen opens you up to the spirit of the man that broke it, any other spirit whatsoever that may have mingled with that man’s spirit, those who have mingled theirs with him and the spirit of any other man that enters into you thereafter.

The funny part is that pre-marital sex is not funny at all. What happens between the lines could be deadly and dangerous. The very first day a lady, or a man does that, there will be spiritual transfer of destiny. The sin of fornication gives demons and occultic people direct access into your God’s given destiny. And it drives away your guardian angel, so guys, zip up! Girls wise up!!

Have you seen why fornication for the singles and adultery for the married is very bad omen and demonic too. The consequences are very grievous to bear. Many have blooded their life with all kinds of human beings! Have you seen why Jesus says, it is only unfaithfulness that can one divorce because it takes blooding yourself with another to break the first blood covenant for the married. This is why marriages are under severe attack by the devil today. The above post is a clarion call for repentance, seeking God’s mercy and asking for the grace to live right and stick to your partner alone henceforth. The Lord will soon return, put your house in order.

BIG THINGS COME FROM LITTLE THINGS WE DO!!!

Stella Duru

DESTRUCTIVE SINS THAT CAUSES GREAT MARITAL UNREST!!

Adam and Eve were very happy living in the Garden of Eden. When Eve listened to Satan instead of God, she caused great unhappiness for herself and her husband. All sinful behavior is caused by rebellion against God when people are deceived by the devil. No marriage fails except where one or both partners are involved in SIN. When sin is allowed to get out of control in a marriage, the marriage will fail to provide the happiness and companionship that God intended. Let us consider some of the more destructive sins that can cause great unhappiness in marriage.

1. LAZINESS is one of the most destructive of all sins. Too many people forget that laziness is a sin. Laziness is a major cause of evil. James 4:17 “Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin”. Laziness is why there are so many husbands who do not love their wives and why there are so many wives who do not love their husbands. Marriage fails to bring great happiness when they do not work hard enough to create love and build marital relationships.

2. PRIDE is another serious sin that can damage a marriage relationship. Pride is usually the sin that causes all other sins. Pride is thinking that you are better than someone else. It is wrong if you think that you are better than your spouse. Do not think that you are more important to God than your spouse. Jesus shed His blood to forgive your partner’s sins just as He shed it to forgive your sins.

3, SELFISHNESS  is another sin that causes much unhappiness in marriage. If you wish to be miserable, think only about yourself. Think about what you want, what you like, what respect people ought to pay you — and then you will be a very unhappy person and cause your spouse to be unhappy as well. Selfishness causes a husband to lie to his spouse. It causes a wife to be concerned only for her own pleasure. It causes a husband to destroy his marriage by committing adultery. Such sin against God and against one’s spouse usually causes lasting damage to a marriage. In some families the husband or wife will turn to drunkenness because of selfishness. Drinking alcohol causes them to forget their responsibilities to their families. Drunkenness causes violence within a family. Drunkenness is the cause of the destruction of many marriages. Philippians 2:3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.

4. ANGER is another sin that can harm a marriage. One episode of anger can damage a relationship of kindness and patience that took years to build. We are too quick to find excuses for our anger.The Bible clearly condemns sinful anger. It is sinful when it is in excess. It is sinful when it is expressed in ways that are harmful. Psalms 37:8 Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; do not fret — it only causes harm. God provides us with a guidebook, the Bible, to follow to help us live more successfully with our spouses. When the husband and wife are both determined to follow the laws of God, it is almost certain that they will find greater and greater joy with each other as they grow older together.

Couples who want to live happy lives together are committed to telling the truth to each other. A stable relationship can be built only by being honest. In happy marriages the couple gets to know one another by talking and LISTENING. Happily married people express appreciation for and give praise to one another. Happy people learn to live with one another with respect and kindness. Happy husbands and wives trust each other deeply. Couples who are happy enjoy spending time together. In happy marriages the husband and wife share responsibilities. A husband who wants a happy wife will not even consider committing adultery. Same goes to the wife.

What can you do for your marriage? How can you increase your marital satisfaction and improve your relationship? The crucial thing is that you have to let go of expecting your spouse to change and work on yourself. Developing a better marriage begins with becoming a better spouse yourself! You can’t change someone else. You can only change yourself. And trying to change your spouse will create tension in your relationship and actually discourage him or her from changing!

Stella Duru

THREE SPIRITUAL KILLERS OF MARRIAGE!!!

Jesus explains to his disciples in Mathew 13, the parables he had just finished speaking to a crowd of thousands. Part of one of those parables explains why after hearing God’s word many people fall away from the faith and their lives have little fruit or impact on the world around them.

Verse 22  says, "And the one on whom seed was sown among thorns, this is the one who hears the word, but the worries and distractions of the world and the deceitfulness [the superficial pleasures and delight] of riches choke the word, and it yields no fruit".

These same three “spiritual fruit killers” also  is what kill marriage relationships today. There are many marriages between Christian spouses that fail to accomplish their primary mission which is to bring God glory and co-exist in a state of long term selfishness, unfulfillment and mediocrity. These three killers are;

1. The worries of the world – think about it. What are the things couples worry about most? Money (paying the bills, getting a better paying job, owning more and better things, vacations, saving for retirement, decreasing their piles of debt….etc.)
2. The distractions of the world – these should be easy to name. Entertainment, ie: television, internet, movies, sports, hobbies, travel, etc. Think of all the things that draw your attention away from God and quality time with your spouse. Technology alone captures more and more of our attention every year – cellphones (sending/receiving texts; calls; messages; images; internet); the internet (Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Youtube and on and on). Think of the hours the average couple spend focused on these things and away from God and each other……
3. The deceitfulness of riches – While very few of us will ever be categorized as having “riches”, compared to the rest of the people of the world – we are indeed rich. In spite of this, we seem to spend the majority of our lives wanting and pursuing more. Higher paying jobs, bigger homes, newer vehicles, nicer vacations, early retirement – our years are consumed with a pursuit that ultimately will be divided among our kids and sold in an estate sale.

Jesus goes on to say that these things “choke the word” (his word) and make our lives fruitless (we produce nothing of lasting or eternal value). They also choke our relationships and make our marriages lifeless and mediocre.

Read this Chapter again and see what Jesus says will bring life and fulfillment to our lives and our relationships. Don’t be deceived into following the deceitful path the enemy has laid down that seems so attractive and fulfilling. It is a mirage. Your life and your marriage will only thrive as you set aside the distractions of our world and seek Him and His kingdom. 

Jesus says, love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.  1 John 2:15. The lover of the world is an enemy of God.

#God&Marriage!!!