MAKING RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGES WORK!!!

Marriages and relationships are based on the law of input and output, you put in small, you get small! You put in a lot,you get a lot. You put in trouble, you get trouble! You put in love, you get love. You put in nothing, you get nothing! Most marriages and relationship fail because certain partners expect the other to meet their needs, while they enjoy life! For marriages and relationships to be at the best, you must put in your best! One key feature of great marriages and relationships is this: both parties are committed to putting in their very best. When you think ALL you need to do to have a better marriage/relationship is to get another partner, you are wrong! For marriage and relationships to work, you must make it your priority to make it work! Put in your best.

One major cause of marriage and relationship issues is selfishness! Selfishness is concern primarily with one's own interest,benefit and welfare regardless of others. When a partner is selfish, marriage/relationship can't work because continually he/she will put their interest ahead of the other. Love isn't selfish, when a partner is selfish it makes a monster of the partner. A selfish partner is primarily obsessed with what he/she will get. relationship is give and take. A selfish partner is hard to love/be vulnerable with because he/she will take advantage of it. Great relationships and marriages always think/talk WE and US, while a selfish partner always thinks I and ME. If you are not willing to share your life, you are not ready for true love. If you are not ready to sacrifice to make another happy, then you don't want a great relationship/marriage. The degree you are willing to adjust determines the degree of happiness to be enjoyed in your marriage/relationship.

Another key factor in making marriages/relationship work is PATIENCE. Every marriage/relationship has it's own cycle phase and seasons. Patience is what helps you at this time. Impatience has destroyed relationships, ruin homes and left many lonely forever. Impatience has made many make permanent REGRETTABLE decisions based on temporal circumstances. Patience helps you become tolerable of the others weakness as they work on them. Patience helps you endure during challenging times in hope of a better future. Patience is a very attractive quality in a man/woman, it gives you "staying power". Sometimes in every relationship, things go really bad and sour, only the patient ones get to see a turnaround. I just want to encourage the married people going through a tough time.Sometimes all you need is patience it will soon pass. Please note, patience is no excuse for abuse of any sort, most times abusive relationships are never ending cycles of sad stories. Prioritizing marital relationship success is the key to successful marriage and relationship.