THE SINGLE POLYGAMIST!

1. His emotions are shared with diverse people to who there is no binding commitment. He is not married but he is enjoying married privileges from several women.

2. He comes to your life with more care than commitment. On his lips is more romance than his actions can sustain.


3. He is damn fast, smart and can keep five of you in one city without letting your paths cross. He has a pattern for each of you: you may be for him in church, one at work, another e-love and so on. He is a perfect sharer.


4. He is not open and it is not a secret. He lets you share his life like you have it all but with apparent boundaries. You may never be able to touch his phone or know the pass code or you can never reach him at a certain time and so on.


5. Watch him carefully, his friends are play boys. They do what he does and paint him to you as the messiah among them. He is called the only 'good boy'. LIE! That's a dummy girl. His company tells you a lot about his reality.


6. He is always too busy for whatever binds him to you but he is never busy for what makes him have you.


7. He is smooth and he covers his lack of commitment with unimaginable care, love and romance. He wants you around but will do nothing to make you stay forever. He wants to make you discardable at all times.


8. His history is more hidden than a mystery. Everyone you find connected to his past is waved away with quick unclear stories. He is a master in covering up real gist with new gist. He would never let you finish a probing point, he'd rather it ends in a fight and settled later without further probe.


9. He studies you like he is studying for a higher degree. His understanding of you even scares you. He knows you so much he can keep you vulnerable and anticipate your moves. This way, he can maintain more of you without hassle.


10. He is smarter than apologetic. His apology is filled with excuses than sorry. He appeals to your niceness and has a way of sending you into emotional blackmail. He will help you find reasons why you are responsible for his weakness rather than take unalloyed responsibility.


11. He boxes your 'love' into a pattern you are not allowed to break because if it becomes unconventional, his plan is disrupted and everything gets exposed. He hates surprises and tries to convince you that that is natural for him.


12. He has a way of insisting that things be discrete even when there is nothing discrete about what he is doing with you. He wants privacy for everything and 'Nicodemusically' runs your 'relationship'.


13. His temperament worsens with time and adventure... the more he has you, the leaner his line of patience... You were never meant to stay long, but you have refused to get the message so he is looking for a 'natural' quarrel to take you off the next girl's space.


14. His happiest moment with you is when he is on top of you. No other time comes close to this.


15. He has worked on you. You actually adore him and cannot see a life outside him... He is a master at enslaving people because that is the only way they can cope with his baggage.


16. He is a Christian but accountable to no spiritual leader. He changes church at will like the Holy Spirit is still in heaven. He is stubborn and you know it. He is in charge and hardly defers to any voice.


17. He has no justification for being single. He has some, enough or more than enough money compared to too many people. He has a job or businesses. He has you, wants you and and can't help himself around you. All he really gets and gives is sex.


18. He treats you more like a target than a partner... Everything he does is to get you exactly where he wants. Remember, he has studied you and plays you like a keyboard.


19. When he claims 'busy', he doesn't want as much as a text, but when he wants you, you must leave your breath where you were and surrender to him.


20. He needs help! he doesn't need you. His life has been built on gaining pleasure from multiple relationships.

WHY CAN'T YOU MARRY A SINGLE MOTHER?

Some men say they can never marry a lady who has had a child outside wedlock. They call them "Ajeku" and "After One" yet they are the same men who run after innocent girls, defile them and deny responsibility for the pregnancy.
Some men have no shame!


If you don't want a single mother, stick to your decision but what makes a woman a great wife is not whether she has had a child or not. Countless ladies have had abortions yet no child before wedding. They look so clean yet rotten inside. Women who chose to have the babies should be respected and honored not for the mistakes they made but the courage they showed.

They feared God and valued another life than commit murder and save their faces from shame. They are God fearing and compassionate. Two major qualities needed in a wife. I pity men who allow senseless ego make them miss God's perfect will for their lives. God doesn't use someone's past to pick a spouse for them, he looks at your future and pick the person who is most suitable to help you fulfil your destiny! I have seen men who had nothing but moved into untold wealth after marrying their wives -a single mother who was used and abandoned in her past!

Single mothers make great wives as well as God fearing ladies. It is our character that determines how we enjoy our marriage not whether we make mistakes in the past or had no previous sexual experience.
The world has even gone upside down. Deception is the order of the day! Some ladies now use hymen kit/pills that make them look like virgins on the wedding night. You will see the blood. She acts the painful part yet she has had countless abortions before she met her husband.

Go for character brother! Go for God's will! Go for the woman who genuinely loves you and will always be there no matter what.

A honest single mother is far better than an untruthful and deceitful single lady. Think about it! God bless you