FOUR INSURMOUNTABLE PROBLEMS NO MARRIAGE CAN SURVIVE!!!

There are four insurmountable problems NO marriage can survive.
*Ceasing to be partners: When one partner feels the other is immature, irresponsible, untrustworthy or selfish, the marital dynamic will definitely crumble destroying intimacy and sexual attraction. One partner will then detach and there is often no turning back on detachment. Domestic abuse is the most severe form of detachment when one partner no longer feel equal to the other.


*Chronic complaining and blame-throwing: When a marital problem is not resolved to the satisfaction of both resentment builds and erodes the relationship. Solving a problem by compromise is more important than being right.


*Extreme Selfishness: Everyone is selfish to some extent but it becomes problematic when partners are unable to empathize with each other and instead compete over issues such as who works harder, who spend more time with the children etc. When partners don't understand the other's contribution at home, each begins to assume the other cares less.


*Addiction: A problem with addiction- be it drugs, alcohol, gambling, infidelity will always take priority over marriage and family. The other partner will feel angry, embarrassed by the lack of consideration for others. If the user is unable to give up their habit they will shift blame onto their partner, who may try to hold the relationship together for a while especially if children are involved but will eventually give up if there is no recovery..Parents will often try to stay together for the sake of the children but once these four problems have run too deep there is little hope for the marriage.


It is very important to correct marital issues before they become habitual behaviors and are impossible to change. It is always difficult for couples to change long standing relationship negative patterns by themselves because people tend to argue for their own points of view. Problems in marriage must not be left too late because when it is too late there is little or no chance the marriage will survive.