WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO INVOLVE GOD IN CONNECTING TO YOUR LIFE PARTNER.

1. Everything done outside God is done in vain. Psalm 127:1 says, "Unless the Lord builds a house,

the work of the builders is wasted. Unless the Lord protects a city, guarding it with sentries will do no good". Everything we do without involving God will be done in vain. God should be involved in everything that we do to be able to achieve good result to His own glory.

2.God knows the hidden things. He knows what we don't know. Hebrews 4:13 says, "Nothing in all creation is hidden from God. Everything is naked and exposed before his eyes, and he is the one to whom we are accountable".God knows everything and everyone He created. If you don't want to get it wrong, involve God in locating your life partner. There is nothing that a person hides that God can not see. You can hide things to people but not to God.

3.God sees what we don't see.1 Sam 16:7 says, "But the Lord said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn't see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”  As humans we can only see the outward beauty or handsomeness of a person but we can't see the heart. God can see the heart of a person and the heart of a person is more important than outward beauty.

4. God knows people's weaknesses and strengths. Psalm 73:26 says, My health may fail, and my spirit may grow weak, but God remains the strength of my heart; he is mine forever. Everyone has got some weaknesses and some strengths.God knows us better. God knows the person who will accept you for who you are. A person who will celebrate your strengths and help you overcome your weaknesses.

5. God knows you more than you know yourself. Psalm 139:1-6 says,  O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. 2 You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. 3 You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. 4 You know what I am going to say even before I say it, Lord. 5 You go before me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head. 6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to understand". God created us,He knows us better than we know ourselves therefore He knows what we deserve more than we know ourselves. His wisdom and insight transcend the laws of human nature. He knows the best for you because He knows the beginning and the end of every man.

6. God knows our future. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope". God knows what is ahead of us. Most of the people who look good for you today might not be good for you in future. People have the ability to pretend.They can look good today but not in the future. God is able to locate for you someone who will be good for you today and in your future.

7. God knows your assignment on earth. Proverbs 16:9 says, The heart of man plans his way, but the purpose of God will prevail". God knows each one of us and what we were meant to accomplish in this life. God knows the person who will be able to help you maximize your God given potential.

8. God does not make mistakes. Ecclesiastes 3:14 says, "And I know that whatever God does is final. Nothing can be added to it or taken from it. God’s purpose is that people should fear him".  Also James 1:17 says, "Whatever is good and perfect comes down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens.* He never changes or casts a shifting shadow"
People make mistakes in life but God is perfect. Whatever He does is permanent! He does not make any mistakes. Whatever He says it's good for you will surely be good to you. If you involve God in connecting to your life partner you will never regret.

9.God loves you. Jeremiah 31:3 says, "Long ago the Lord said to Israel: I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself".

God loves us and has reconciled us yo Himself by the power of His Spirit. He has the best in store for everyone who loves Him in sincerity and in truth. Because of the great love God has for us He will never give us what is not good for us. 

HOW TO OVERCOME SEXUAL ACTIVITIES BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!

1. Always get into a relationship with a God fearing person.


A person who does not fear God will always demand sex.people who do not fear God think that you can not have a relationship without sex.

2. Know that sex is not all that a relationship is all about.

Its very important that you see your relationship in the right way.Never allow the world to lie to you that you can't have a successful relationship without sex.

3. Know that your body is precious and its a temple of the Holy Spirit.


God dwells in you and he loves your body so you need to value it.

4. Avoid doing anything with your boyfriend that arouses your feelings.


Many people kiss,touch each other in their relationships and that has opened up a door for sex before marriage. If you want to avoid sex before marriage do away with all things that can arouse your feelings.

5. Avoid seeing each other in a private place with your boyfriend. 

Sex is difficult to avoid if you allow yourself to be alone with your boyfriend or your girlfriend in a private place.

6. Don't see each other in the evenings.


It's important to avoid evenings as time of seeing each other. The best time to see each other is in the morning and afternoon.

7. Avoid seeing each other more frequently.


It's good to meet and know each other as partners but its not wise to see each other so frequently as if you are already married.there is need to keep some distance somehow.

8. Keep your mind occupied


Sex originates from the mind. There can not be sex without the involvement of the mind. so to avoid sex fill your mind with the word of God. keep yourself busy and never entertain evil thoughts .

9. Play with good friends


If you keep a company of people who are sleeping around before marriage it will be easy for you to do the same. Surround yourself with people who live a holy life.

10. Be selective on what you watch or listen to.


Watching and listening to romantic and sexual stuff can lead you into unplanned sex. What you watch most can easily tempt you into doing it.

11. Know that a boy friend or girl friend who wants to sleep with you before marriage doesn't really love you.


A person who loves you will wait for the right time to have sex with you.

12. Have a mentor or a spiritual person to monitor your relationship.

There is need for good counsel in any relationship. You need a person who is mature enough to guide you to live a holy life.

13. If you are a lady make sure that whenever you go to see your boyfriend wear clothes that cover all your private parts. 

If you are a lady and you go to see your boyfriend wearing clothes that expose your breasts, legs etc there is a chance of tempting your man to have sex with you.

14. Try make your courtship period short.

Long courtships before marriage can lead to sex.The more you know each other the easier it becomes to have sex together.

15. Learn to pray together and read the word of God together with your partner.

A relationship where partners don't pray together opens much room for sexual activities.

16. Give yourself to prayer and fasting.

Another way to discipline our bodies is to pray and fast. If you fast often your body is put under subjection.

17. Formalize your relationship as early as you can.


It very important to make the relationship known to the parents, pastors. This brings some respect in your relationship.

18. Do not spend so much money with your partner before marriage


Its good to buy good things for your partner before marriage but if you spend too much money your partner can be tempted to give in to sex for over trusting you.

HABITS OF COUPLES THAT CREATE AND MAINTAIN A HEALTHY TWOSOME

There are habits of couples that create and maintain a happy and healthy relationship, and unfortunate, it does not happy overnight. For any relationship to grow strong and lasting, the couple need to put in some work because nothing works until it is worked out.

The habits that will create and maintain a happy and lasting healthy twosome are as follows:

* Communication: Communication is key that unlock most important qualities in keeping a healthy relationship. But unfortunately, not everyone knows how to communicate properly or communicate at all. They don't know how to talk to each other with love and honesty. They take themselves for granted. Happy and healthy couples communicate the good, vocalize their love for one another and compliments each other. They discuss the bad, instead of sweeping it under the carpet. So in order to move forward as a couple, both spouses need to be able to truly talk about everything, no matter how awkward or uncomfortable it sounds, it will make for a long lasting and fulfilling relationship.

* Respect: In a relationship between consented adult, respect is earned, not demanded. Respecting your partner comes in many forms. Maintaining a joyful relationship means respecting your partner's time, heart, character and trust. There are many things couples do in relationship that can break down respect between them. They are name-calling, talking negatively about your spouse to friends or family, threatening to leave the marriage, saying something and doing the opposite, taking your partner for granted, secrecy, neglecting your responsibilities in the marriage etc. If you show respect for your spouse even when disagreeing, you keep the door open for returning to emotional intimacy.

*Quality Time, not Quantity: Healthy relationship is all about spending quality time together. It doesn't matter how much time you and your partner spend together, the most important part is about the quality of this time. Spending quality time together as a couple help to maintain a deep connection and bonding. It gives you the opportunity to understand each other likes and dislikes and to do that which makes your partner happy. It also helps you to revel in your spouse's best qualities and celebrate them.

*Time Apart: Just as spending quality time with your partner is important, spending time apart is equally important. Being able to do your own thing and remain independent is very vital. When couples spent too much time together, it can create an unhealthy co-dependent relationship. maintaining healthy boundaries and some autonomy will make for a long-lasting partnership. God puts in each person a gift and a talent which each need to accomplished here on earth. No one is create a stooge. Schedule time for yourself, to focus on your needs and take good care of yourself. You can't give when you are running on empty.

*Love languages: Men and women have love languages and have unique ways of feeling loved. These love languages are: words of affirmation, receiving gifts. quality time, acts of service and physical touch. So it is important to know that the love language speaks to you differs to the one that speaks to your partner. Telling each other and doing that which makes your partner feel loved and special and attending to it consistently helps both of you stay connected.

*Appreciation: Often, we forget to let our partner know that we appreciate them. We think it, but we don't remember to show it. Showing your spouse that you love them boost their ego. It could be done by words, acts of kindness, cards, gifts etc. Remember a word of affirmation keeps the relationship fights at bay, maybe not every day, but you get the point. Tomorrow is uncertain, the time to show your appreciation to the one you love and care for is NOW.

*Sex: Sex helps couples to cultivate a flourishing relationship. Sex is the more you have, the more you want it. The less you have it, the less you want it and the less you feel connected to your partner. Keep sex alive and spice it up continuously.

*No comparisons: There is a saying that grass is not always greener on the other side. But even if it is, it might not be the kind of grass you would even like. With other people's relationships, we tend to compare our relationships with other. But the happiest of couples don't look to see what the grass looks like on the other side, they are happy with the view out their own front door. Those who compare their relationship with others end up losing theirs in the process out of frustration. Couples in a healthy relationship are always contented with what they have, while trusting God for His lifting.

*Pick and choose you Battles: There are arguments to be had in every relationship. So it is very crucial to bring issues to the forefront and work through the hard times together.  Pick and choose your battle wisely because people in happy and healthy relationships do. A spouse who must win every argument has not figured out that battle are being won, but the marriage is being lost.

*Positive Vs. Negative: Nobody is perfect except God. Some times couples are caught up in the negative. It is vital that partners look at the positive qualities of their spouses and not the negative for a healthy relationship. So instead of focusing on the bad in the other, make it a conscious effort to look at the good side of your spouse. If you find yourself sliding into a negative mood, catch yourself and change the direction of your thought. Pray to God to take control of what you say or do and guard your lips and not let you drift towards evil. Talk to a friend that lift you up spiritual, listen to good uplifting music. We have power to change only ourselves but God changes others.